Happy Father’s Day

Best-selling child psychologist and author Dr. James Dobson released his first book, “Dare to Discipline,” in 1970. It suggests parents must provide children with firm, loving, consistent discipline.

In the book, Dobson shares the story of 10-year-old Robert’s visit to his pediatrician. At each visit, the out-of-control child tore up magazines, screamed, bit, kicked and created general chaos. His mother had no idea how to control her son.

During an examination, Robert’s pediatrician noticed cavities. He was unsure of whom to refer the unruly child before remembering a colleague known for his unusual rapport with children. Robert entered the dentist’s office ready for battle. Leaving his mother in the waiting room, he walked to the exam room but refused to get in the dental chair. The dentist said, “Robert, I’m not going to force you, but I want you to climb into the chair.” He refused. The dentist explained to Robert that he needed his teeth fixed and told him to get into the chair again. He refused, saying, “If you… try to make me, I’ll take off all my clothes.”

Unfazed, the dentist told him to do it. Robert removed his shirt, T-shirt, shoes, and socks. The dentist said, “Now get in that chair.” Robert replied, “I said if you make me get in that chair, I will take off all my clothes.” “Take them off, son, and get in the chair,” the dentist said without missing a beat. The boy did just that.

After his cavities were filled, Robert demanded his clothes. The dentist replied, “…tell your mother that we’re going to keep your clothes tonight. She can pick them up tomorrow.” Robert walked into the waiting room stark naked. His shocked mother escorted the boy to their car without a word.

The next day, the boy’s mother collected her son’s clothes and spoke to the dentist, saying, “Doctor, I want to thank you for what you did… For as long as I can remember, he has threatened… he’ll take off his clothes if he doesn’t get his way. You’re the first person who has ever called his bluff, and he’s already a different child!”

Being consistent, parents and grandparents, is challenging but worth the effort because children need the wisdom and boundaries we can give them. King Solomon penned these words, “My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.” (Proverbs 1:8, NLT)

We must patiently teach our children and grandchildren the lessons they need to develop self-discipline and live well. Do not lose heart when parenting or grandparenting gets tough. Being the best dad or grandpa we can be is worth our best effort because we play a vital role in the lives of our children and grandchildren. What parents and grandparents are doing matters more than we imagine. Happy Father’s Day!